3's & groups
What makes something kinky? What one
person finds odd, another will do without thinking twice. Kinkiness,
like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. Some of the stuff
listed here will gross some of you out (some of it squicks me..),
others will page through it thinking "What does he mean,
'kinky'? I do this all the time..."
There's also a big difference between
having a kink and having a fetish. A kink is an activity or accessory
that you enjoy, while a fetish is one without which you can't
get any pleasure.
s e x c l u b s
Since I've mentioned sex clubs above, maybe
I should explain what they are.
A sex club is just that, a place for guys
to go and have sex. Sort of like a bar, but without the booze.
You pays your money and takes your chances. Most will have a
lobby area, with a juice bar and smoking room, then shower/changing/locker
rooms. Farther back, or upstairs will be a maze, thin wooden
partitions dividing up a room(s), with glory holes and odd little
spaces. Bunk beds or large mattresses scattered around the premises,
perhaps a workout bench or even a sling.
Usually there will be a TV room, or monitors strategically placed
all over, showing porn. The music is loud and pounding, the lighting
almost non-existent, the temperature just this side of steamy
(no "shrinkage" here). Buckets of condoms and lube
conveniently to hand, paper towels on every wall. The smell is
intense; lust, cum, sweat, pheromones and poppers
combining in an aroma that sets your blood racing. From all around
come moans, groans, grunts and the slap of flesh on flesh.
You prowl though this dense atmosphere,
reaching out to stroke a bare chest, fondle an exposed ass, and
if he responds...
It can be an almost mystical experience,
worshiping the priapic gods incarnate, offering yourself up as
both the alter and the communicant. It's raw sexuality in its
purest form, communication by osmosis and touch, relating on
a level both above and below consciousness.
In case you couldn't guess, I like sex
t o y s
I mentioned toys briefly on the anal
sex page, but there are a whole lot more things to play with
than just dildos, and plenty of other places to put them...
There's your basic accessory, ranging in size
from smaller than a finger to much larger than you might think
possible to fit into a person, and in form from vaguely phallus
shaped to true-life detail. You can find them in a wide variety
of materials, latex, silicon jelly, wood, marble, and lucite
are just a few. You can even get them in assorted colors and
Then there's buttplugs. Not made for action,
these are inserted and left in place. From finger sized, all
the way up to paint-can... Look around, someone you know might
be wearing one right now.
These are called anal beads. A number of rubber,
metal or wooden beads are strung together and inserted into the
butt. You're supposed to pull them out slowly, one by one, at
the moment of orgasm to increase the intensity. Personally it
doesn't sound like it would work, but I've heard reports from
An erection occurs when the penis is filled
with blood after arousal. Simultaneously, muscle spasms occur
at the base of the penis causing the blood to be trapped and
the penis to become hard. When there is a dysfunction of the
muscle spasms, the blood flows out and the penis remains soft.
A cock ring applied snugly to the base
of an erect penis will help prevent the blood that is keeping
the penis hard from returning to the body. In this manner, the
cock ring helps maintain a firmer erection.
Above are only a few of the forms a cockring
can come in.
There are much more complex types, like
this one, that constrict not only the base but also the shaft.
You can find them with velcro, snaps, ties, studs, or spikes,
and made of leather, rubber, metal, wood or cloth. Plus, you
can use just about anything laying around. Next time you see
a guy with the hem torn off his shirt...
Many people look at male nipples and think
"Why bother?" But guys' nipples can be very powerful
erogenous zones. I once dated a boy who I could make come just
by playing with his nipples. Most men aren't that sensitive,
but do enjoy it to one degree or another. Nipple clamps, such
as these, can be used to keep the stimulation at a set level
while leaving the hands free. You can get them with alligator
teeth, soft nubs, vibrators, springs, or adjustable screws. Clothespins
are popular as well. See also CBT/TT.
Fredrick's of Hollywood has made millions
of dollars on sexy lingerie for women, and while there isn't
a comparable store for men's undergarments, there are just as
many different types. From leather posing pouches and chrome
studded harnesses to latex cock sheathes and silk boxers. A simple
jock strap can turn a guy from "not" to "hot",
and BVD's are always in fashion. Unwrapping the package is half
the fun, and sometimes leaving something on can be more fun than
taking it off.
Slings are made for easy access. That's pretty
much all you need to know about them...
Not for a million dollars would I put my nuts
in one of these things. But some guys like more stimulation in
that area than others. Balls, like all other body parts, vary
widely. Some guys can't stand having them played with at all,
others like them sucked, stroked, twisted, stretched, even whipped.
This particular device has a vibrator pellet to provide a constant
Lots more to come about toys, as I gather
more pictures... In fact, this topic may soon spin off onto its
own page. Keep checking back for updates.
p o r n
While I don't really consider watching
porn to be kinky, it can easily become an obsession. With the
advent of personal VCR's and deadly viruses (virii?), many men
retreated into self-service sex. Some guys have huge collections,
and the industry is worth more than a billion dollars each year.
As an occasional adjunct to sex, or during a dry spell, porn
doesn't do any harm. But when you *have* to have it playing to
get yourself going, you're in trouble.
This is much more a psychological condition
than a physical one. You get so used to a certain type of stimulation
that without it you can't get excited. Since porn, as fun as
it can be, isn't anything like reality, this can lead to *major*
problems when interacting with real people in ordinary situations.
On the other hand, porn gives you pretty
much complete control over your own sexuality. You choose your
partners, your actions are all for your own pleasure, and you
never have to cook breakfast for them (though if you're not punctual
you can run up outrageous late fees).